I want to talk about my personal experiences here. When I was a a youth I was about a bigger sh*t than I am now. The only major difference was that I was less world-weary and thus a bit more lively back then. Anyway, I used to really love Sherlock Holmes, so much so that I made a constant game of deducing details about people based on what I observed about them. I wasn't any good, but it helped pass the time. I was also very focused as a student before, really getting into the material. Fast-forward the tape two decades, and I haven't read Conan-Doyle in ages. I also realize now how presumptuous Holmes' deductive method was. I'm less focused now with learning things, though I've gotten to know a lot of stuff from all the life experience the world has seen fit to vomit on me. In my opinion it's something of a given that you are your track record - people can deviate from that track record consciously but only with the investment of huge amounts of time and resources. And, if my past experience is anything to go by, it's not always guaranteed that you'll meet your stated goal of being this better kind of person. More often than not, change happens and it's something you least expect. There's a lot in life you have no control over, starting with the fact that you were born at all - it's not like one already had sentience as an embryo. Starting from there, you have no choice about your genetic make-up, your parents, your living conditions, your economic status, etc. You have no control over the billions of other people on Earth who are also scrabbling for whatever purposes they have. So many things you have no control over swirl around you every second of every day but somehow something sticks to your soul and incrementally you evolve your sense of self. And the kicker is, the process continues your entire life; we just fool ourselves into thinking that there's any permanence to who we are. Bruce Lee was right in that self-discovery ends prematurely because of your death. Because of this I don't like to think about sexuality and even personality for that matter as a choice/non-choice. For me, it's more apt to say that who you are right this moment emerges from the chaos of your life and circumstances and you're not required to stick to this aspect for any longer than you like. Then again, there's no telling how long you'll be the current you, so just probably enjoy the ride with all your teeth intact.